關於分享喪親及失落的經歷及感受

今天晚上到深水埗一間教會再次分享了自己喪親及失落的經歷及感受。

其實這已是我第四次在大班陌生人前作分享，本來每多一次分享，每一次應該會有進步，但今晚我仍然戰戰兢兢、聲音生澀、說話顫抖、情緒並不非常冷靜！

事後反省，可能我每次重提舊事，事件仍然瀝瀝在目，心有餘悸；加上我其實有太多事情想與大家分享的，要把兩年間的感受在短短三十分鐘內交代，真是困難！

然而，當看見台下的朋友有些眼睛鼻子通紅、有些點頭表示贊同、有位與我握手說了聲：「加油！」、在離開時一句：「多謝分享！」，我其實已得到安慰、也高興自己有「能力」站在人前勇敢的把內心深處的感受表達出來、把自己認為重要的訊息帶出且或會影響別人對生命死亡的看法，把正能量傳播開去 … ….我深信再一次被醫治，也感恩非常！

雖然未是基督徒，但這段聖經話語對我影響很大，也是我對生死的看法及在生命教育中一個重要的啟示。願與大家共勉之：

傳道書：

「3:1凡事都有定期、天下萬務都有定時．
3:2生有時、死有時．栽種有時、拔出所栽種的、也有時
3:3殺戮有時、醫治有時．拆毀有時、建造有時

3:4哭有時、笑有時．哀慟有時、跳舞有時」

有關生死教育的書籍

亞洲的生死教育以台灣最為先進，發展仍相當理想，很多生死教育的課程，都會安排到台灣探訪、觀摩和取經。

我真想在香港的書店找尋到好的生死教育及哀傷輔導的書籍，可是這兒有的種類比較少，而台灣的書刊有關這方面的題材就會多些，可是不知是因為都是翻譯本，或是其語文運用都跟香港有較大的差異，閱讀時總是覺得怪怪，很不通順似的。

不過我的問題已解決了，因為前幾天我在Amazon 訂購了共6本有關的英文書，不出一星期，今天就送到。Reference Booklist as below:

1.          The Grief Recovery Handbook

2.          Counseling for Grief and Bereavement

3.          How to Go On Living When Someone You love Dies

4.          Working with Loss and Grief.  A New Model for Practitioners

5.          The Death of a Husband, Reflections for a Grieving Wife (Comfort After a Loss)

6.          Healing a Spouse’s Grieving heart: 100 Practical Ideas After your Husband or Wife Dies

Christina

HtH

Online Survey on Life and Death Services

http://freeonlinesurveys.com/rendersurvey.asp?sid=mbsnj1quyrn68h6953448

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意見調查 以下是一項關於生死教育及哀傷輔導服務的簡單調查。問卷共分四部分，題目涉及閣下以往至親／至愛離世的經歷、對生死教育服務的看法及會否接受哀傷輔導方面的意見及對服務的考慮等。希望閣下能在百忙之中，抽數分鐘完成以下問卷，幫助本機構進一步研究及制定正確的業務計劃。

Dear All,

Heart-to-Heart would like to understand more about the market and know your opinions on life and death related services, such as its need, society awareness, education provision and grieve counselling support, etc.  We'd therefore invite you to spare a few minutes to complete the on-line survey by clicking onto the link and share this to more people.  Here you go:

http://freeonlinesurveys.com/rendersurvey.asp?sid=mbsnj1quyrn68h6953448

Your helping hands mean so much to me, and I thank you for your kind support!

Cheers
Christina

Founder, Heart-To-Heart Grieving Services

A psycho-therapeutic support centre, a dream of mine!

The sudden loss of my 20-year beloved one in Dec 2009 as well as the leaving of My Mum in Sept 2010 gave me a different aspiration of what life is, what suffering is, what the feeling of sorrow is, what the importance of social support is for a traumatic one to live on positively from the very difficult time and regain living motivation in life.

Having gained some professional attainment of counseling training, one never would be able to offer empathetically counseling support to the sufferers unless he or she has had real experiences of suffer and sorrow.

During this tough time, I realize that the weaks are most often thinking negatively that influences greatly the motivation and hope in the life journey. Counselling support is undoubtedly useful and important in helping people to regain drive for life.

I am therefore preparing myself to start some counselling services for the ones in need, on a part-time basis.

To reach HTH in person, please email to hth.grievingservices@gmail.com or call 6101 8685 for details and support.

Christina Li
Founder, Heart-To-Heart Grieving Services